Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Christmas Break

Hello sweet friends!

I just wanted to take a minute and let you know I am taking a Christmas break and won't be blogging this week.

I hope you all enjoy your Christmas - may it be a blessed time!

Thursday, December 15, 2016

Calm My Anxious Heart Giveaway

It's almost Christmas!!

And because I love Christmas time and I love my WHEW Tribe,

I'm giving away this book!!

What better way to kick off the new year than by doing a 12 week Bible study about worry and contentment!

Here is what has to say about it:

"Women worry a lot. We fret about our children, our friends, our careers, our spouses---the list goes on and on! If you're tired of being held hostage to a million "what ifs," Dillow's 12-week Bible study will provide the help you need to exchange your anxieties for godly peace and contentment."

I know this book was published several years ago, but if you haven't read it yet, I think it's an excellent study. 

So, I'd like to share it with one of you. 

Use the Rafflecopter below to enter. 

I will announce the winner on my Facebook page on December 23, 2016.

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If the widget above does not work for you, you can enter here.

Good luck

*I will mail the book media mail the week after Christmas.

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Rekindling the Fire

Sometimes it's easy to get caught up in the usual, ordinary tasks of our everyday life and let the romance in our marriage take a back seat. 

Well, it is for me anyway.

I have a tendency to be a task oriented person and although that helps get my to-do list done, it can also mean that I don't take time to work on relationships (with my husband or my children).

It isn't that I don't love them or spend time with them, but I often forget to put in that extra effort.

You know, that extra effort that goes beyond just taking care of their everyday needs.

That extra effort of little things that can make a big difference and really show them they are important to me.

More important than my to do list.

I've been married 19 years and we have a great marriage! But in those 19 years I've learned that keeping the fire going takes work. 

It takes that extra effort - but it's so worth it!

Rekindling the fire can make a good marriage great! It shows your husband that you love him enough to put in that extra effort - instead of just settling for an okay marriage.

Thursday, December 8, 2016

Live in the Moment Mama

As a mama of teenagers, I want to encourage all the mamas of littles in something-

Mama, these moments won't last forever.

So don't forget to live in this moment.

I know it can be hard, especially when you've changed your third dirty diaper of the day or you just had to comb snot out of your hair. Let's not forget the dog poo that got tracked across the floor or the cheerio floating in your coffee. (At least it isn't the other way around, right?!)

I'm not going to pretend that every moment of motherhood is wonderful. 

It's not.

It can be hard. Really hard.

But it's also wonderful. It's full of slobber kisses and squeezy hugs.

It's a time for snuggles and bedtime stories.

It's full of giggles, tickles and zerberts.

Mama, I know you get tired. I know that your babies need you every single minute of the day and sometimes you'd give anything for a moment of quiet.

Just quiet. Just you and your thoughts with no tugging on your shirt tail with details of what their last trip to the potty looked like. 

Can I just tell you that it's okay to be tired? It's okay to want a moment's peace. It's okay to want to go to the bathroom by yourself. 

It's okay.

But can I also encourage you by saying that those moments really will be gone before you are ready? I know you don't think so. You wonder how on earth you could miss all that, but trust me, you will. 

One day your time will be filled with teenagers hollaring bye as they drive off with their friends. One day you will be watching your daughter put on make up and realize she is quickly becoming a woman. One day you'll realize you don't remember the last time you tucked them in.

Then you'll run in your 19y.o. son's bedroom and tuck him in tight like you used to just to irritate him and make him laugh.

Oh don't worry, you'll still have plenty of snot and poop stories. They'll still bring you their kleenex and say here mom ya wanna see my snot.  Um, no, I think I'll pass - as they try to make you look at it.

 It's okay to be tired and it's okay to take time for yourself. You need it. You need to find time to get alone with your thoughts and with God and just be still. It's a good thing, a needed thing.

But please don't wish these times away too fast. Don't get so tired and frustrated that you miss these moments. When you're wiping up kool aid for the fifth time, breathe and take a moment to thank God for these little ones. These blessings that God has given you to be their Mama. 

Don't let the spills, the messes, the tantrums and the snot take away your joy.

Remember that these moments really won't last forever and some day you will struggle to remember those cute little antics they did. The days of cardboard box spaceships and blanket forts will be gone.

The days of sending each other funny snapchats and annoying emoji texts will take their place.

Each season of motherhood has different struggles, but they also each have their own beautiful, wonderful moments.

So mama, live in those moments. Take pictures of those moments - the funny, everyday messy moments, not just the picture perfect moments. Enjoy each moment. Love your children through each moment.

Because those moments are what matter. The ordinary every day moments are what make up your life and it's where your children will learn they are loved and that you wouldn't trade them for anything.

Tuesday, December 6, 2016

Sometimes I Don't Like Serving Others

I don't always enjoy serving others.

There, I said it out loud. 

I hate it. I hate that I sometimes I take on the role of Martha when she whined to the Lord -

I have thought this same thing so many times. Don't they see me doing all this work? Why are they not helping? Why am I the one that always has to _________? 

It's ugly. Those thoughts are ugly and selfish. But I have them.

Not all the time, but I wish it was never. 

I wish that I would serve everyone, all of the time without one single thought of myself.

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Phil 2:3

I'm trying. Really I am.

When I feel those thoughts coming up, I try very hard to quiet them. I try to remember these scriptures. I remind myself what a blessing it is to be able to serve and to have others to serve.

I started writing in my prayer journal what kind of woman I want to be and verses that will help me become that woman.  

Now Simon's mother-in-law was ill with a high fever, and they appealed to him on her behalf. And he stood over her and rebuked the fever, and it left her, and immediately she rose and began to serve them. Luke 4:38,39

Serve the Lord with gladness! Psalm 100:2

These are just a few, I could go on for several pages!

I know that meditating on verses that relate to selfishness, serving, laziness and pride will all help me. I know they are all important. 

And I pray.

I have to pray often. 

I used to look to other women as examples of servants, but I had to quit doing that because it only became a comparison trap. I would feel guilty for not serving as cheerfully as she was, or as well as she was. But the truth of it is that I can't see in her heart and she may be serving with a Martha heart also - maybe she just hides it better. Or maybe it's her spiritual gift and she does it without one single thought of herself. Either way, it doesn't matter. I'm only to compare myself to Jesus.

I'm to follow his example.

And He was most definitely a servant. 

A servant to the death. 

I'm not there yet, not even close. But I'm trying.

So for now I pray, I meditate on scripture and I remember the blessings I have received in the past from serving.

And if you've ever had a Martha heart while serving, I hope these things will help you as well and that you will know you are not alone.

Thursday, December 1, 2016

Why WHEW Tribe?

Hey friends! I'm so excited! Today I officially launch WHEW Tribe!  

I thought this would be the perfect time to share with you why I started WHEW Tribe and how it came about.  About a year ago I felt God leading me to start a new blog; I had been blogging at Rashel's Run for several years already, but really felt I was to start fresh. So after much prayer I started Breathing Authenticity and started learning all about how to start a blog, the best platforms, etc. Well, that was my first mistake - going to the world for direction instead of God. I should have listened more to how He wanted me to do it, not what the world said I needed to do to have a successful blog.

I won't bore you with every detail, but let's just say that God was not in that blog. I paid for my own domain name, I signed up on a new platform and I started writing. It was a struggle. I'm not talking about getting people to my blog, I'm talking everything. I didn't know the platform which made it super hard to use. I would spend hours just trying to get my blog to look like I wanted it to, let alone the time I spent trying to get my photos to look like "they" said I should. I struggled with every detail which quickly burnt me out on writing there at all. So, I let it slide. I wrote very infrequently, if at all. 

Fast forward to a few months ago and God started impressing upon me again that my blog was my ministry. I was to use it to encourage women, to lift them up and bring them together. I hadn't been doing that lately. At all.  So I began praying about it and really seeking what God would have me do. Little things began telling me that Breathing Authenticity was not the answer. Okay, so a new blog. I could do that. I started praying about a new name. I started looking into a different platform. I started reading "how to blog" posts. 

But I could not hear God guiding me. 

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Don't Let Others Hold You Back

Do you have dreams? Are there things you would love to do? Or new things you would love to try, but you worry what others might think?  Sometimes it can be hard to try new things, really hard. We can get so comfortable with the way things are that we just aren't sure we should shake things up. But we should sometimes. Shake. Shake. Shake! And we should do it without worrying about what others are going to think about it.

It is good to have dreams! It is fabulous to want to try new things and set new goals. Fabulous!! It doesn't mean we aren't content with what we have. It doesn't mean we aren't super thankful for the blessings we have. I believe God wants us to be adventurous. I believe He gave us that adventurous spirit. Imagine if no one ever followed their dreams and tried new things. We wouldn't have computers or cell phones. We wouldn't have the internet or even be able to fly!

There's No Shame In Starting Over

I think sometimes when we fall behind in something, or completely fall off the wagon, it's easy for us to just give up. We start thinking it would be easier if we just quit altogether. We listen to the little voice that tells us we failed, so why even bother trying again.

Sometimes things happen and we get off track with our goals and plans. I want you to know it's okay. Sometimes we fall behind just out of laziness, it happens. Don't beat yourself up about it and don't listen to that little voice telling you that you will just fail again. That voice is a liar.

When You Look Them in the Eyes

Are you guilty like me? I have a tendency to glance at people, even when I am speaking with someone. I can't say I always look someone in the eye, do you? I have a horrible habit of not giving the person my full attention when we are talking. But do you know what happens when you look someone in the eye, you make them feel special. Even if it is just for that brief moment of conversation, they feel noticed. Listened too. Respected.
I really am trying to be better at this. I know how important it is and I'm working on it. As God's children we are called to love others and if we can't even take the time to look them in the eye, are we really loving them? If I'm talking to someone and the whole time they are looking around the room, paying attention to other conversations and checking out what everyone else is doing, I certainly don't feel like my conversation with them is important. Yet, I've been guilty of this very thing many times. Thank God for grace and forgiveness!
But another thing happens when we look into their eyes....
we can see into their hearts.
You can see joy in eyes. You can see love. You can also see sadness.
Look at this picture of the horse.
Now, look at it again and look in the eye.
At first glance you might just see a close up of a horse's eye, but when we actually take the time to look at it, we see much more. We see the reflection of my daughter taking the picture, we see her hands, the camera and the sky.
There is so much more to see that we might have missed had we not looked into their eyes.
How much are we missing when we just glance at people? What are we missing that could change everything and cause us to stop and truly see them? To truly love them.
Are you a glancer or a looker?

*originally published February 2016 on my former blog

Tips From a Seasoned Trim Healthy Mama

I started my Trim Healthy Mama journey in August 2013, wow, that is 3 years ago!! As I look back on my journey, I can see I've learned a lot along the way. A LOT! I want to share a few of those things with you and maybe make your journey a little easier.

To be very honest, at first I rejected Trim Healthy Mama. I had already learned and applied proper food combining principles and it sounded very similar to me - from what I could read online without actually purchasing the book. I ignored it for months after I'd first heard about it. Then I don't even remember what it was, but something made me buy the book. I joined the Facebook group and started learning what I could while waiting on my book to arrive. Waiting very impatiently, I might add. I'm so thankful I bought the book. I learned so much from that first book and it made SO MUCH sense. Yes, it was similar to proper food combining, but different enough that it really made more sense to me. I never could quite believe the reasoning behind food combining, but this clicked with me. I got it, I understood it and that made me want to follow it. So, my journey began.